It was not easy to surprise him. For the most part, he didn't like surprises. He didn't even like birthday presents. Who doesn't like birthday presents? Over the years I returned so many presents I bought for him, I finally stopped buying them.
He didn't like parties either, at least not for himself. He would much rather go out somewhere or better yet, on a trip. How do you plan a birthday for someone who doesn't like parties and doesn't like presents?
I remember a day just before his birthday one year when I was in the living room thinking what in the world could I do for his birthday, and in my frustration I yelled into the den where he was on the computer, "What do you want for your birthday?" He yelled back "Nothing." So I said "Well, I would like an I-pod for your birthday." He was a little taken back, but said "Oh, well, okay. Get ready and let's go shopping." You see one of the things he loved to do was shop for electronics (and a good deal), so it was a win- win for both of us. He could shop for electronics on his birthday and I could get the present. I finally found out what he enjoyed doing on his birthday!
Every year before his birthday he would say to me, "What do you want for my birthday this year?"
So this year I bought myself an I-pad. Happy birthday, Honey! Wish you were here!